tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8695996700205733002.post8676967228073905588..comments2023-09-08T06:51:16.214-07:00Comments on Ender-Chan's Thoughts: Why I Love LabelsAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10616282351291824392noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8695996700205733002.post-50562044395916912492015-10-03T16:15:39.260-07:002015-10-03T16:15:39.260-07:00Default to person-first if you are unsure because ...Default to person-first if you are unsure because it is more non-confrontational. Generally, it is best to mirror another person's preferences (unless they are using slurs). If I intended to disrespect or slander another person's views, I would have made my intentions MUCH more clear. Compare "Y is horrible and so are the people who practice it. Here is some misleading information about people who do Y" to "I strongly prefer X over Y for these reasons. Now, I will assert why I prefer X." My asserting the reasons for having my opinion is not an attempt to disregard someone else's views, advertise it as fact, or persuade others to share my opinion. I approach issues that I feel strongly about bluntly and passionately. Can that lead others to think I disrespect their views? Yes. Is it disrespect? No. I don't like to halt and fumble around simply for the sake of avoiding offending someone; neither do I like to or stir conflict and offend simply for the sake of doing so. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10616282351291824392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8695996700205733002.post-68651135263249577532015-10-02T15:36:39.325-07:002015-10-02T15:36:39.325-07:00I agree with you here! I too am autistic and have ...I agree with you here! I too am autistic and have ADHD (combined type) and I am not ashamed or embarrassed about it. When I tell someone, "I am autistic," I am not telling them a deep secret about myself... I am just explaining a large part of my life! Of course if you know what a certain individual prefers... for instance the commenter above who prefers to say "I have hearing loss" rather than "I am hearing impaired..." it is good to respect their choice! But sometimes you might not know what the person prefers. I wonder if it is better to ask outright, or to default to "person first" language until you know what they prefer?Angel The Alienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16158672957404194956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8695996700205733002.post-46817463393146533622015-10-02T13:03:53.314-07:002015-10-02T13:03:53.314-07:00I'm not forcing anyone to choose anything; thi...I'm not forcing anyone to choose anything; this is just an outline of my choice and why I choose it. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10616282351291824392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8695996700205733002.post-9823414424392072122015-10-02T12:43:18.716-07:002015-10-02T12:43:18.716-07:00Labels can be good as long as you allow the person...Labels can be good as long as you allow the person to choose their own labels. Like not forcing me to say "hearing impaired" when I prefer " I have hearing loss" Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10392626811425787266noreply@blogger.com