Blogger Widgets Ender-Chan's Thoughts: I'd Like You To Know...

Wednesday, May 13, 2015

I'd Like You To Know...

How This Works
  • Create a blog post titled "I'd Like You To Know..." and list some things (any amount) that you would like people to know about you, your life, or a particular cause you wish to promote.
  • This is kind of a disability awareness thing, but you can do it for anything that's misunderstood and/or stereotyped (like pit bulls or snakes).
An Example (And Also Personal Post)
  • I can understand your body language and facial expressions. I pick up easily on social cues, but I may not know how to react appropriately. If you act like I am oblivious to such things, I will know. 
  • Your "helping" won't help at all. If I look lost, ask me if I need help. If you rattle off information while I am processing, I will lash out at you. You have been warned.
  • If you wish to support autistic people, look no further than autistic advocates and autistic-run organizations. Going to neurotypical-run organizations is like going to a toilet for drinking water.
  • Preventing stimming is mistreatment. If someone gagged and bound you for talking or destroyed your router for blogging, how would you feel? An autistic person would have similar feelings if you prevented them from stimming. Let them have loud hands and if their stimming hurts them or someone else, redirect them to an alternative.
  • I am not your pawn, charity project, or trophy. If you use me like one, I will know that I am being objectified.
  • I can help other people. Obviously, I can't do everything, but I can do some things and do them skillfully. I don't always need to be on the receiving end of a good deed (not that I want to be).
  • In my eyes, the only wrong kind of friend is the kind that mistreats you or others, but such a person is not a friend. Someone who is nice to you, but not the waiter, is not a nice person. The most accurate judgment of a person's character is by the way they treat those who they can easily take advantage of (but, hopefully, don't). Do you want friends that take you to the highest heights or friends that make sure you don't die when you fall?
  • Your judgmental comments won't help. Think about the other person. What might be another reason for their actions? Do some research on that reason. Find out more options and then examine yourself. You are farther from perfect than you think. When in doubt, abide by the golden rule.
  • Fair is not always equal. People are not a factory-manufactured product, so not all of them are the same. Therefore, different people have different needs that need different things to meet them. A cellist needs a bow, a vocalist needs a mouth, and a handbell player needs an ensemble.
  • No one is perfect, so don't expect anyone else to be.

10 comments:

  1. I don't blog so I'll do it here if that is okay.
    I have hearing loss, chronic ear pain, and an anxiety disorder. I am an AP student who has a 504 plan. I want people to know that having a disability and being smart are not mutually exclusive, so people should stop treating it that way. It is very annoying and insulting to have people assume and say that I am unable to achieve good scores or success in life because I have hearing loss. All people with hearing loss do not all know sign language so don't assume it. On topic of chronic pain, it is quite rude for people to say it is "handy" or "convenient" to have chronic pain. It is not "convenient" to be unable to sleep at night, people! And finally with anxiety, like other mental health issues should not be joked about or made fun of.
    I'm sorry if this turned in to too much of a rant. :)

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    1. I kind of ranted in my post too, as evidenced above. Therefore, I would be hypocritical if I judged you for any ranting you may have done. Whoever said chronic pain was convenient has no sense of logic. I don't experience chronic pain myself, but I don't think it's convenient for everything to hurt with no easily solvable reason. As for "All people with hearing loss don't know sign language", I feel like this statement would be subject to misinterpretation. I'm sure there are some signers with hearing loss who learn how to sign for unrelated reasons (I've heard of one interpreter with a hearing aid.). This comment made my day. Thank you, again, for stopping by!

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  2. Laurie Hollman, PhD, at Parental Intelligence
    This a great idea that will help lots of people. Thanks for your post.

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    1. Thanks for sharing this information about yourself. I don't see it as a rant. I want to know how to be a good friend to you and others. Non-autistics need to learn from you. It's the only way we can truly understand you. You are the voice for many who have no voice. It ticks me off when people think they know exactly what my daughter needs and they've only spent 15 minutes observing her. I love her and know her the best and even I fail to understand her needs over and over. Thanks for sharing this at Faith, Hope, and Love!

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  3. Great post! People make lots of assumptions instead of just asking

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    1. Thanks for stopping by, Ila! I like your blog.

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  4. {Written in a reply to your comment on Love That Max!!}
    FlutistPride....
    Hi there, Friend!! Thank-you for such a real, honest, transparent comment!! For some reason, it spoke to me!! You are such a Beautifully Unique, creative artist.... And I love you for every single aspect of this!! Keep writing. Never stop!! Keep creating. Never stop!! Keep making art. Never stop!! But do it for you. Not your parents' approval. {Easier said than done, I know!!} Do it because it makes you happy!! And {In my case as a writer, an artist who paints pictures with words} do it because it keeps you sane!! ;-D
    Stay hard, stay hungry, stay alive.... ;)
    Love you later, Raelyn
    PS. This Blog post sounds like a lot of fun!! ;-D

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    1. Hi, Raelyn! Thank you. I needed that.

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  5. Thanks for sharing this information! You did a great job in your explanations.

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