There is no way to justify these actions, but these people are not just violent rage machines planted throughout the world like android time bombs. As abhorrent as murder is, I find reactions to it to be just as bad. Victims need compassion, but perpetrators need it just as much, if not more. They are the ones going back to their lives (in most cases) with a cloud of regret, a tarnished reputation, and the same loneliness that likely motivated them to turn to the gun in the first place.
I do not think murdering other people by any stretch of the word is a valid way to resolve feelings. Even wishing death on others for a split second is murder by the moral definition of the word. By that standard, I am guilty of such a crime a thousand times over. I do not wish death on the Orlando shooters, not even retribution of some kind. I wish them forgiveness and a change of heart. God calls us to love our enemies, something I personally struggle with.
But I choose it. I choose love, no matter if anyone deserves it or not. I choose, not just the love of a friendly hug or a knowing glance, but the kind of radical love that transcends all others: agape. I choose agape in all circumstances. That means I empathize with and display compassion to everyone, not just people who deserve it. I doubt that the last thoughts of victims were spite directed at the shooters, but concern for the ones they left behind.
Choosing what is right is not always easy or popular. Then again, what is easy or popular is rarely right. I considered rallying alongside victims calling perpetrators "monsters" and disregarding their humanity altogether. It would have been popular, convenient, and even partially right. However, since I believe in seeing things from all sides, it would have violated my principles to do so. You have the right to disagree with me and call me a radical. You know what? Call me that. I am proud to be a radical.
Now that you all have your verbal guns, go ahead and fire. I have nothing to lose. I won't even dodge or try to protect myself. Have at it. Go ahead and fire. I won't care in the least.
I agree.
ReplyDeleteI don't know that we can talk about morality as particularly warped. That metaphor never quite worked for me. If we weave it into our personal fabric...
"They are the ones going back to their lives (in most cases) with a cloud of regret, a tarnished reputation, and the same loneliness that likely motivated them to turn to the gun in the first place."
What if the perpetrator could count on a measure of institutional support and personal popularity? It must be a deep personal loneliness which could count even that.
The bystanders and the observers deserve empathy too.
But then it was never about resolution, was it?
"Even wishing death on others for a split second is murder by the moral definition of the word. By that standard, I am guilty of such a crime a thousand times over."
I know. I am complicit in infinity.
"I doubt that the last thoughts of victims were spite directed at the shooters, but concern for the ones they left behind."
Exactly! Even if they weren't able to call or talk, the concern was big. They might also have thought about what a great time they had with Pulse and their chosen families and friends.
"Choosing what is right is not always easy or popular. Then again, what is easy or popular is rarely right."
That's part of my moral belief system too, FlutistPride. It needs to be said and to be reminded of at a crucial time, reinforcing the rest.
"Now that you all have your verbal guns, go ahead and fire. I have nothing to lose. I won't even dodge or try to protect myself. Have at it. Go ahead and fire. I won't care in the least."
Then you leave others in the position of caring more than you do - they hold the units of concern in this. Now that is a formidable thing - concern is easily weaponised.
"There is no way to justify these actions, but these people are not just violent rage machines planted throughout the world like android time bombs. As abhorrent as murder is, I find reactions to it to be just as bad."
Bystanders and observers fumbling around for something to do definitely do deserve our concern. Survivor guilt hits deep.
DeleteConcern is a powerful tool.
And don't I know it!
DeleteAbout survivor guilt.
Especially the "what if it weren't me?"
Judaism is good with this. And so is Buddhism.
I do realise that this post was written from a Christian world view, specifically a Lutheran Christian world view [remember Martin and his 99 theses - some of them have a lot to do with what we're talking about right now].
And like all powerful tools - sharpened; respected; cared for and USED.
Concern creates a tone, an atmosphere, a space.
One big question about your definition of empathy:
ReplyDeleteDoesn't empathy come from a perception or recognition of vulnerability?
I think it comes more from perception, feeling the way someone else feels.
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